We have heard the phrase “opposites attract” and see it evident in our interactions with family members, friends and even relationships. For instance, if you look in a group of friends – there is usually one that is serious, another who is goofy, the loud one and the quiet one. Although the personalities are all different – they work well together.
The same reigns true in a marriage. Although Scripture calls the couple “one”, that doesn’t mean that they will always see eye to eye. What do you do when differences arise? The way you tend to deal with others (friends, family etc) you tend to do the same in a relationship. You may be the type to “shut down” during an argument …. that can be a challenge within your marriage (Don’t worry. No judgement here ….. I have this particular struggle).
The beauty of differences is it makes us unique. We can learn to appreciate each other’s uniqueness. For example, my husband is a morning person and once he is up – he is up for the day (He doesn’t even take naps). On the other hand, I am the complete opposite. I dislike mornings! I am a night owl and am more productive in the evenings. You should see us together though. Even though we are different in this area we embrace it and even make jokes about it.
Romans 15:6-7 states “May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.”
My prayer is that God will help us to accept our differences. Help us to see the unique way that He has formed us. At the end of the day we were created according to His plan. May He help us to nurture the gifts we see in each other. May those gifts be sharpened and strengthened and used for His glory. Remember that marriage was made to glorify God.
Neither partner is perfect, which is why we need Him to be our strength. Our personalities are different, and sometimes those differences bring hurt and confusion. Let’s ask Him to teach us to love each other as He instituted love, with patience and grace. Let’s pray for humility and see what we need to improve on.
To my followers who are single – Learn to appreciate the differences amongst your family and friends. With instances of conflict, utilize good communication skills and agree to disagree on some matters, and compromise on the others. Practice these skills NOW and develop in the areas you are weak.
To my followers who are married – Embrace the differences in your spouse. There may be instances where that is challenging but ask God for strength. The same way God has shown you grace, show grace to others.
For His Glory Only,