No Stagnation: Personal Growth




For this edition we will be discussing stagnation in our personal growth.

Remember the definition: Being stagnantmeans having stopped, as by ceasing to run or flow; failure to develop, progress, or advance. The state or quality of being or feeling sluggish and/or dull.


At the beginning of the year – most of us make “New Year’s Resolutions” or set goals. I personally set goals, make a vision board and set an action plan on how to attain those goals. The important thing is not to lose momentum. Things happen! We face obstacles and challenges that may cause stagnation in our personal growth.  This blog post is to assist in the area of personal growth and how to eliminate stagnation in personal growth.


Set Goals & Action Plan – It is important not only to set goals, but the steps to attain the goals. For example, if my goal is weight loss it should look something like this:

  • Goal: Lose 20 pounds in 2016 and keep it off
  • Action Steps: Walk/Run 3-4 times a week, Gym 2-3 times a week, Eat Clean, Get a trainer

From there you can go into more depth of what your workout and meals will look like and any other items needed to ensure you are a success. The key thing is to set the goal and detailed steps on how you will achieve it.


Create a Vision Board – Vision boards have definitely gained popularity over the past couple of years. Personally at the beginning of the year I complete a fast ranging from 1-21 days, ask God for direction, write out my goals and make a vision board. It is important that you allow God to guide you as you writing your goals and making your vision board. Seek Him FIRST!

Vision boards are a fun and creative way to make the goal real. This visual aid allows all your goals to come alive and creates excitement.


Keep it Visible – Whether you make a vision board or simply write out your goals –make sure it is always visible. Keep the written format in your agenda, take a picture of your vision board to keep on your phone, or you keep your goals hanging up on the fridge. Do whatever it takes to keep your goals in your view. You want to be sure your goals are something that you can see on a daily or even weekly basis. This will keep you motivated.

Accountability – Accountability has come up several times when dealing with stagnation. When you have an accountability partner , they will keep you in line and remind you of your goals and why you started. A [good] accountability partner is able to “check you” if you are fall off track.  Don’t always allow your accountability partner to be someone who is easy on you.


Revisit/Check-In – Make it a point to revisit the goals you have set and note the progress. Put it in your calendar to check it once a month. Even when you have an accountability partner, make sure you keep yourself accountable by checking on your progress.


Make Adjustments – At times we set unrealistic goals, and need to make adjustments. Don’t be so hard on yourself! If losing 20-30 pounds was unrealistic, start with 10 pounds.

There are times you don’t have to change the goal, but the action steps. Don’t feel bad. The main thing is to remain focused.


Short-term vs. Long-term – This is something we learned in our early years of life; the difference between short-term and long-term goals. You may need to make short-term goals that will help you accomplish your long-term goals. For example, if your goal is to obtain your degree … the short-term goal would be to take all the necessary examinations to apply, next apply for the school and then enroll. The long –term goal will always remain “obtain degree” but you may need to break it down.

Be realistic – Don’t overwhelm yourself. Your goals must be realistic. If you don’t make realistic goals you will get discouraged and give up. Setting lofty goals can lead to feeling like a failure. Set goals that are realistic and obtainable. For example, it isn’t realistic for me to say I’ll save half of my salary when my expenses are more than half of my salary. A realistic goal would be saving $1000-2000 a month.


Remember, the best way to deal with stagnation is to make sure your goals are S.M.A.R.T. (Specific, Measurable, Attainable/Achievable, Realistic, Time-Based).


The first six months of the year is gone. Let’s make the next six months AWESOME.

Until next time, let’s work on achieving our personal goals.

For His Glory Only,
Danielle J.

No Stagnation: Professional Growth

For this edition we will be discussing fighting stagnation in your professional life.

Remember the definition of being stagnant is having stopped, as by ceasing to run or flow; failure to develop, progress, or advance. The state or quality of being or feeling sluggish and/or dull.

Just to give a brief background of my professional experience – I am a Human Resources Manager and have been in the Human Resources field for over 8 years. I’ve held positions ranging from Administrative Assistant, Generalist, and Supervisor. I also have my Masters of Science in Human Resources Management.

Feeling stagnant in your career can be very difficult. There are different reasons one can feel stagnant. In my experience I have found that individuals feel stagnant professionally because of the following reasons:

  • Bored at work/Not challenged
  • Lack in skill set and unsure of next steps (no development)
  • No opportunities of growth within the company and/or the career field as a whole
  • Overloaded with work (burned out)
  • Not learning anything new/no growth
  • No raise in salary, benefits and compensation
  • Poor or difficult work environment

As I have mentored and assisted individuals during their career development, there have been some common themes with my advice.  I wanted to share a few in this post.

Set Goals: No one knows what you want besides you. Take a break, pray, sit down and write out your goals and visions for your career. What do you want to ultimately achieve? When you have that written down, decide on an action plan that will get you there. Be S.M.A.R.T. with your goals means the goals are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time-bound.

Build your personal brand: Even if you are not a small business owner, you have a personal brand. What is everyone saying about you? Are the saying that you are always late, miss too many deadlines, rude etc This can keep you from progressing in your career. Focus on making your personal brand stand out. Put your best foot forward, ask questions, seek for understanding, ask to be on projects and make yourself available.

Get a mentor: I am personally a big advocate for mentorship both within and outside of the company you work for. Mentors look at things differently than you. They are able to speak to what is going on within the industry and not only your specific department. Mentors also help you to stay accountable and furthering your development.

Get a sponsor: Some may think mentor and sponsor are the same. Although it can be the same individual, the sponsor takes things as step further. A sponsor is someone who advocates for you. That means when projects and high profile positions are opening up they are advocating that you take part. The sponsor is someone who is reputable and seen in a positive light, and are vested in seeing you move up.

Get certified: In each industry or company, there are certain certifications that are either required or preferred. Even if you are in an entry level position, seek to get certified or become the expert in a specific area. If you are seen as the expert, the company and industry will find value in you. Also, this opens the door for you to look for other positions that will challenge you.

Resume building: When was the last time you reviewed your resume? Make it a point that you revisit your resume every year to add additional skills and talents onto your resume. If you have taken a course within your company or have played an important role in a project or initiative, place that on your resume. Also, before applying for a job look at the job description and ensure that you resume shows you are qualified for the position.

Education: This one may be difficult because of the cost component, however, in some industries specific degrees is a must. There are companies out there who offer tuition reimbursement. If possible, further your education. It allows you to stand out from your peers, those within your career and other applicants.

I will leave you with this: If you are currently in a situation where you dread going to work and it is negatively affecting your health … it is time to re-evaluate your situation. Stress can kill (it also makes you gain weight … just speaking from experience). We all need to make a living but don’t let it be at the cost of your health.

Until next time, stay professional!

For His Glory Only,
Danielle J.

No Stagnation: Spiritual Life

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For this edition we will be discussing stagnation in our spiritual lives.

Remember the definition: Being stagnant means having stopped, as by ceasing to run or flow; failure to develop, progress, or advance. The state or quality of being or feeling sluggish and/or dull.

Whether you are a new Christian or have been Christian for a long time – you may have experienced being stagnant in your relationship with Christ. Many of you have been there, or are currently there at this very moment. Think about the first time you accepted Christ as your personal Savior. You were on fire, praying every day, reading your Bible every day, attending church service after church service etc Then LIFE happened. It may have come in the form of an obstacle, unanswered prayer, new job promotion, getting married, having a child/children, school or even work. So many things can get in our way and keep us from having a vibrant relationship with Christ.

Zephaniah 1:12-13 states: “It will come about at that time that I will search Jerusalem with lamps, and I will punish the men who are stagnant in spirit, who say in their hearts, ‘The Lord will not do good or evil!’ Moreover, their wealth will become plunder and their houses desolate; yes, they will build houses but not inhabit them, and plant vineyards but not drink their wine’”. This verse is a prophecy against those who were “stagnant in spirit,” or “settled in complacency”. Not going to lie … That verse is scary!

Let’s discuss some ways to get out of the rut and remain consistent in our spiritual lives.

1 – Make time: You know the phrase “you make time for what is important to you”? Your spiritual life should be a priority. Do not make excuses that you are too busy. We often make a schedule and God is NO WHERE in the picture. I personally feel early morning is the best time (or whenever you wake up). Start your day with Him, in His presence. I know many of you have hectic “schedules” … schedule your time with him. You wouldn’t miss certain appointments, don’t miss the appointment with Him.

2 – Accountability: Get an accountability partner or a group that can hold you accountable. As I sit with many people I realize this is a definite lack in the body of Christ. We are scared to hold each other accountable. Get someone or a group of people that will check in on you (and sometimes check you) and keep you on track spiritually. We do it for working out … why would it be any different?

3 - Challenge Yourself: As you walk with Christ, there needs to be growth. If your understanding of the Bible is the same as last year … that is a problem! Scripture speaks about being lukewarm … He will spit you out (Revelation 3:16). Join our Bible Challenge (shameless plug), set a goal to read a book within the Bible. Do SOMETHING that is challenge and not in your ordinary “routine”.

4 - Go To Church: Listen, not only go to church but pay attention! Get off your phone!! Church is a place of fellowship and is vital in spiritual growth. Something amazing happens when you are surrounded by like-minded individuals [Acts 2:42-47].

5 - Get involved: Not only go to church, but get involved. When you are involved in something you remain committed. You see the bigger picture and it also helps keeps you accountable.

6- Fast & Pray: If you are struggling spiritually, set aside some time to fast (no food) and pray. This is one of the most vital keys to growing spiritually. It is important that you are in communication with God or you will continue to feel a void. Scripture even talks about removing demons by praying and fasting [Mark 9:29, Mathew 17:21]. Powerful!

7 – Serve: Serving others assists in spiritual growth because it takes your eyes off your personal obstacles and allows you to see the bigger picture. There are so many who are hurting, lost and need our assistance. This means we need to be spiritual fit!

8- Mediate on Scripture: Do you eat every day? Same concept! We need to be fed spiritually every day through the word of God. Open up your Bible, use your Bible app etc Read the word daily!!

9 - Nature/Change scenery: Sometimes you may need a change of scenery. While you are reading the word – go to the park, sit by a lake or even pray in a separate room. You need a place where you will not be distracted.

10 – Teach others: One of the best ways to remain consistent and applying all you have learned is teaching someone else. That may look different for many of you. Some it may be teaching those in your household, others it may be friends or peers. Just be open to teach and help others.

This week I challenge you to do the following:

-  Write out your spiritual goals
- Pray over your goals
- Set time aside to make a plan on how you will achieve these goals
- Look over the topics within the blog – Try at least ONE!
- Let us know how you are doing by either emailing in or commenting on this post

Until next time … remember NO STAGNATION! Next Friday we will discuss professional growth.

For His glory only!
Danielle J.

The Prodigal's Daughter

Where to start... To think where I was almost four years ago and compare it to where I am now is a serious blessing. When people look at me now they see a woman that is strong, sweet, God fearing, and seems to have it all together. What they don't see is the filth, pain, and shame that once consumed me. Another thing they don't see is the daily battle that I fight to keep the enemy from consuming me with my past and negative thoughts. A little background about me is I'm 25. I will be 26 this year God willing. I'm married and have been for almost five years. I have a son named Logan who is seriously a gift from God. I also recently started my own health and wellness business which is great, because I love to help women. Now that you know a little about my present, let me tell you about my past.

About four years ago I was in such a dark place. I really felt empty and like I was lacking something. Since I felt this way I came down so hard on my husband. I felt like he wasn't enough and he wasn't doing enough. I wanted him to be perfect so bad and fix everything I had on going inside, but was totally clueless that the Lord was tugging on my heart. Instead of responding to the Lord's tug I went in the opposite direction of him and what he wanted and decided to start talking to a man that was not my husband. How silly of me right?! That's what happens when you don't have God as the head of your life. You make stupid decisions that lead to serious consequences. Choosing to talk to another man led to the breaking of my husband's heart and our family.

Once we separated I sunk into depression and felt more alone than ever. I remember being up crying at 12:30am and not having anyone to call. It had been so long since I really prayed. I had no idea where I should start or if the Lord even wanted to hear what I had to say. I thank God that I had a friend who told me there's no special way to pray. The Lord just needs me to come to him. She gave me the idea to lay down on the floor and pray. She told me once I get up I should leave all my burdens and all my pain down on the floor, sending them right back to hell where they came from. I soon began to journal after that about how I felt about everything. It was in those quiet moments before the Lord when I had no one else, that he saved me and showed me that he can be everything that I need. He showed me that he can take all of my mess and turn it into my testimony to glorify him. I learned the real meaning of Jesus' death and how I've been made new because of his blood. The scripture I memorized to remind me of this is 2 Cor 5:17, "anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun".

Although my husband and I are still separated I can tell you that I have never been so complete! The Lord has given me so much joy and peace. He has loved me out of such a dark place and he continues to keep me and I am so undeserving. The Lord has taught me so much about himself, being a child of his, being a wife, and being a mom. I now take marriage so serious and look forward to the day that he restores my marriage.

Life is beautiful because Jesus died for me. Through the blood of Jesus I have been forgiven and can do all things! Life is beautiful means that although I may face deep waters, the Lord promises to be right there with me. Isaiah 43:2

My message to all wives out there is to keep God first and don't give up on your marriage. Don't look for satisfaction anywhere else. If you feel that you or your husband is lacking anything take it before the Lord. If you're struggling in your marriage be intentional about praying because it does work! For the ladies that aren't married, don't rush it. Make sure you have a strong, complete relationship with the Lord and make sure you're complete in yourself. These things are a must if you want to have a marriage that glorifies the Lord. To everyone know that the Lord is good. He loves us all so much. Don't be afraid to allow him to step in and take control of your life. It will be the best decision you've ever made. Surrender to the Lord and watch what he can do for you. 

Mya - Thank you for sharing your story and being so transparent. As sisters in Christ we will be keeping you in prayer. God is a God of restoration and He is able to do exceedingly and abundantly more than we can image.

Ladies, let's stand in the gap for Mya! Keep her uplifted in prayer. That is our job as believers. Also, please support her blog. You can find it here.

For HIS glory only…..
May God richly bless you!